Valentines day is a wonderful day. Full of candy and hearts and gifts and sappy messages about how much you love and are loved by your beloved. Whether it is a new relationship and your first valentines, (yea, I'm part of the “love club” now), or you are a little longer in the tooth and enjoy a life-long valentine with lots of memories, it is a day about love and belonging and being cherished. You enjoy all the sappiness, chocolate, roses and special dates.
For others, valentines is not about a boyfriend or spouse it is about their friends or children or their dog(s), pets etc. Galentines has even cropped up on Feb. 13, to celebrate your best girl friendships with brunch that includes waffles. It has morphed into a kind of “what ever it is that I love” day. I am all about the dog thing. My first dog of my very own, a Sheltie named Princess Valentine, I got on Valentines as a present to myself when I went through a break up right before the “love” holiday. Hands down, the best valentines ever!!!
But there is, another side of Valentines Day. It can be a blaring reminder that love and relationships are not always that great. Maybe through loss by death or divorce, or a long distance of physical separation or a troubled relationship, you do not feel a part of the “love club”. For many, this may bring about feelings of failure. Being abandoned or betrayed or feeling the guilt of not doing the necessary things to get/keep/maintain membership in the club. Troll social medial looking at all the happiness or seeing the gigantic heart displays in stores can be difficult as one deals with their own loss, separation or longing. It occurs to me that some may just take the Rhett Butler approach and just not “give a damn”. But, honestly, who doesn’t want to be loved. We were created to love and to BE loved. It is a need…..Maslow said so.
In whatever category you are in, blissfully happy in a romantic relationship, blissfully happy with family, friends (furry or human), or in a season of struggle it is good to remember a few things about the “love club”.
- There is a place for feeling sad. This is very well explained by the Disney movie character Sadness in “Inside Out”.
- Love is a two-way street. It is great to be loved and it is also great to give love.
- The Great Spirit of the Universe (GOD) is Love. It is perfect love, always available in huge unconditional amounts and we need to make ourselves available to receive it.
- Soak up the love you receive today and savor the blessing.
- Give love. When you feel sad or less, give love. One intentional act of love today puts some good on the scales to help counteract the pain of others.
- Live is a series of seasons.
- Chocolate is needed in all situations.